The adventure usually begins with a fall or physical crisis that leaves families struggling to know where to begin. Where are the Medical and Financial Power of Attorney, where are the bank accounts, the means to pay for care, the deed to the home, etc…and ultimately what are their funeral preferences? How can you take care of someone while sorting through a maze of confusion?
The fact is, no one needs to endure such turmoil. If everyone would take the time to face reality and grapple with the decisions themselves instead of burdening others, it would be a much easier task to care for each other. Many of us refuse to face the realities of aging and by the time we need assistance, our aging minds are compromised and our decisions are not always sound and safe. We are often riddled with paranoia, resistance, and denial. What is quality care and, most important, where are you safe as possible?
Many seniors are more worried about running out of money than running out of life. Our longevity is compromised when we choose to live without care close by. We choose risk in the name of independence when support and care actually keeps us more independent to an older age. Those that plan and educate themselves on all the options and benefits available to them, enjoy independence and safety.
Start today and get your legal documents, Will, Financial and Medical Power of Attorney, Living Will. Call a Placement company and learn about the independent and long term care living choices and find out what options are available so you do not run out of money. Finally, know all the benefits available to you, pre-plan your funeral/memorial service.. develop a game plan.
Do not wait for the magical day when you are “ready”, be brave and, above all, be kind to those who are to be your caretaker. Losing you and seeing your change will be challenging enough.. do not burden those you love most by being too selfish to take time to prepare your documents and downsize your life to a beautiful meaningful time focused on what really matters.